DEAR ABBY: I’ve been associates with “Carolyn” since grammar faculty. We’re in our early 40s now. She’s married; I am divorced. Two years after my divorce, she launched me to a pleasant man I am going to name “Don.” Don and I’ve grown nearer. He lately informed Carolyn how he feels about me and that he needs to marry me.
After he informed her, Carolyn began sending him messages letting him know that she is drawn to him. She even informed him some confidential issues about me that I shared solely together with her. Don has proven me the messages she despatched and informed her he feels uncomfortable about her approaching to him. She dismissed it as “joking.” I plan to spend the remainder of my life with Don. I really feel betrayed and harm by Carolyn’s actions. Ought to I finish our friendship? — BOTHERED IN OHIO
DEAR BOTHERED: Your friendship with Carolyn ended when she not solely put the strikes in your boyfriend, but in addition tried to sabotage your romance by revealing belongings you had confided to her. What she did was no joke. I see no purpose for a confrontation, however you and Don ought to distance yourselves from Carolyn.
DEAR ABBY: I used to be recognized with a mind tumor six months in the past. All of my associates and associates know. My household doesn’t. I hesitated to inform them as a result of my father was gravely ailing (he has since recovered), my sister does not like dangerous information, my daughter had a tough time with my final mind tumor 10 years in the past, and my son is within the army. There may be nothing they will do.
I lastly have a plan of motion from my docs. I will likely be having radiation and can maintain off on surgical procedure to see if it really works. My query is: Ought to I convey my household in on this? I desperately wish to. I do know I might be devastated if one other member of the family saved this sort of data from me. Or would telling them be egocentric on my half? I imply, why fear them? — WAFFLING OUT WEST
DEAR WAFFLING: I am sorry to your analysis. I hope you notice, as a result of you’ve been round this monitor earlier than, that you could be beat this once more. Since you need and want the assist of your loved ones, please allow them to know what has been happening. Doing that’s NOT “egocentric.” In case your most cancers doesn’t reply to therapy, how do you suppose they might really feel that you simply had saved the information from them? Inform your father and your youngsters to allow them to assist you thru this. As to your ostrich of a sister who “does not like dangerous information,” enable her to proceed residing in ignorance. She could be of little, if any, assist to you throughout this nerve-racking time. I want you all the perfect.
DEAR ABBY: I lately invited two {couples} over for dinner. After the meal, I requested if anybody want to go for a brief boat experience on our lake. One of many {couples} needed to go, however the different girl stated she did not wish to, so we did not. What would have been a greater method to deal with this in order that we may have gone? — SAILING AWAY IN SOUTH CAROLINA
DEAR SAILING: Boating is not for everybody. As a result of she wasn’t keen, you possibly can have provided your visitor the tv distant management and informed her the remainder of you’d be again in 45 minutes if she wished to remain.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
